Musings of a psychic

The past few weeks have brought about a lot of eye opening moments for clients.  Collectively, you are being asked to look at your choices, your behaviors, your conditioning, your expectations and your own level of attraction.  No one enters our lives by accident.  We always attract into our lives someone who resonates at the same vibration as we do.  I have been finding myself telling clients that a person doesn’t just fall into your life.  There was no accident here.  You attracted that person into your life based on what you are vibrating.  The arrival of that person was the answer to your unconscious call.  Period.  Instead of vibrating and drawing people in unconsciously; we are being asked to look at how we are vibrating, what we are vibrating and to be more aware of the unconscious signs and symbols we are sending out.  It is only when we become consciously aware of what we are vibrating that we can then begin to change, evolve and grow.  Spirit is asking us to take the blinders off.  In some situations, the blinders are coming off whether you want them to or not.  It’s time to see not with sunglasses on, but with eyes wide open.  It’s time to take responsibility.  It’s time to realize that we are not just passengers, but the drivers of our existence.   

We love what is familiar.  As such; we embrace the wrong relationships, the wrong friends and the wrong job opportunities.  When we think of breaking out of the familiar, we become uncomfortable.  Why?  The unfamiliar has a lot of uncertainty.  The thought of a life filled with lots of question marks is not appealing to many people.  Recently, a client admitted she was dating the wrong guy.  When I asked her why she wasn’t doing anything to break it off, she explained that she’d planned to but each time she saw him she’d put it off.  As we discussed this, she realized that she’d been ‘putting it off’ for months.  During our session, I explained to her the importance of letting him go so he could move forward and meet the right person.  I added that her decision to remain in the status quo was also stopping her from meeting someone.  She reluctantly agreed to take action immediately.  As she walked away, I knew she’d find an excuse to stay with the familiar.  I knew that she’d put off embracing the unfamiliar.  When we put off embracing the unfamiliar, we give up on possibilities.  What are the possibilities?  Endless. . . .

A big part of moving forward on the path is releasing the things that no longer serve us.  Sometimes we release in anger.  Sometimes we release in tears.  Often times we release with uncertainty and mostly we release in fear.  Fear that what lies ahead may be too much for us.  Fear that what is next may be something we don’t want or won’t like.  Fear that what is next is going to be uncomfortable.  Spirit always gives us exactly what we can handle.  Spirit always gives us the right mix of change and newness so we can adjust properly.  I like to think of releasing like peeling an onion.  I call it the ‘onion effect’.  We peel off a layer of the onion and live in that place for awhile.  When that layer no longer serves us, we peel that off and live in the new layer for awhile.  We are always stripping away the old and replacing it with the new.  We strip away memories, thoughts, illusions and realities that no longer fit who we are.  At the core level, we are divine beings.  By stripping away, we get closer and closer to that divine place.  If we are working our way back to a divine place, why is that so SCARY?  Do we feel unworthy?  It’s the illusion that we are unworthy of being divine that keeps us held back instead of moving forward.  Trust the onion effect and find your way back to wholeness. 

The ending of the holiday season brings a collective sigh of relief to many people. After spending Thanksgiving and Christmas with our families, many people are thrilled that the arrival of the new year signifies time spent away from family. Why do we fret, worry and stress about the right gifts and the time spent with family and then gladly welcome the opportunity to get away and return to our own lives? For many people, the holidays and the closeness to family triggers issues. What kind of issues:  old patterns that don’t serve us anymore, old dynamics that we easily fall back into and the realization that our family expects us to act in a certain way in their presence. Essentially, this is a struggle for many of us. Our family ‘expects’ us to be who they want us to be – the role we play that they are most comfortable with. We, on the other hand, aren’t the person/role they are most comfortable with because we’ve changed. When engaging with family, we have two choices — be the person that makes them happy or be who we are. The correct choice is to be who we are. Sadly most of us don’t like to rock the boat so we opt to be who we aren’t. In the end, family wins and we lose. The biggest consequence when we aren’t true to ourselves is that we sacrifice the person we’ve become to make others happy. We put our happiness second. With family, the only way to find joy is to be comfortable with who we are and to show that part of ourselves all the time. 2012 has been touted as the year in which mass consciousness will shift. This year is also about authenticity. In deciding how to be with our family, remember that choosing to be our unique self might make us stand apart from family, but at least we do it at the benefit of being true to ourselves.

Many times I feel like we attempt to put the ‘cart before the horse’.  We are so eager to get to the next spot on the path that we forget the importance of the moment we are in right now.  If you’ve read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, you know how important it is to be connected to this moment because the power we have in this moment is undefinable and undescribable.  Recently I was speaking with a client who said she was just ‘obsessed’ with getting to the finish line and ‘feeling it’.  She could taste the sweet smell of victory and she wanted it NOW.  I empathized with her because I could see how much she really wanted it.  However, I tried to make her understand that she needed to focus on where she was right now because there was so much power in this place.  If we live our lives always wanting to be somewhere else, somewhere forward, somewhere better, stronger, happier, etc., then we lose what this moment is about right now.  We can choose in this moment to be happy with this place.  We can choose in this moment to see the wisdom and teachings of where we are right now.  We can choose so many things for this moment, but mostly we need to choose to be fully in this moment.

The gift giving season started early for me this year.  In my case, Spirit gave me a gift I hadn’t even asked for.  Much to my surprise, I was gifted with the completion of a life’s lesson.  For me, the lesson had started the day I was born.  Many years later after much hardship, confusion and frustration, I received a message saying that I was done with this lesson.  Wow!  A part of me was joyous, happy and thrilled. 

“How often does this occur?” and “Aren’t life lessons complete only when we die?”  I asked.

Apparently not.  While one part of me celebrated, the other part of me began to wonder what was next.  What did Spirit have in store for me now?  Hmm?!  Later that day while walking in my apartment complex I saw a beautiful tree with red, gold and orange leaves.  That tree like so many others didn’t question its path or its journey.  Each fall that tree allows its leaves to turn color, fall off and die.  Then the tree waits out the winter season until the spring comes.  In the spring, the tree sprouts new leaves and the process starts all over again.  In essence, we are very similar to the tree.  We sprout new parts of ourselves, we blossom and grow.  In time, other parts die and we wait patiently while we re-group and then the process starts all over again. 

For me, parts of my tree had died.  A lesson had been completed and now I waited for a new beginning.  In the last few weeks, I have been embracing new teachings.  I’m learning about the Goddess and have been asked to study anatomy.  Additionally, I have a new spirit guide and a new power animal.  What is next for me?  I do not know.  However I feel I am being guided, supported and loved as I take each step.

Take a moment and think about who or what you are ‘plugged into’.  Whom are you giving all your energy – your boss, spouse, significant other, ex-significant other, your friends, co-worker, mom, dad, children, etc?  Where are you leaving all your energy – at work, in your relationship, in the past, in the future, in the man or woman who left you, in the man or woman you left?  It is important to know where you are leaving your energy because that is what you are plugged into.  The more you are plugged into someone or something else the less you are focused on you.  If you aren’t focused on you, who is?  I don’t believe we choose to plug into other people or situations intentionally.  I believe we do it because we are looking to have our needs met from outside sources.  The true place where all needs can be met is when we turn the spotlight on ourselves.  Choose to unplug and focus on you.  You’ll be happier.

The biggest message I keep sharing with clients lately is that “all is divine”.  Things happen to us that we often don’t understand.  A relationship ends, people pass away, an injury occurs or a friend moves out of town.  Everything that occurs is divine in the eyes of God.  If you believe we all have a path to walk, then you should believe that things that happen while we are walking on the path are all divine.  These things may not make sense to us, but they make sense in the bigger picture.  We can’t always see the bigger picture while walking the path.  Many people never truly see the bigger picture of their lives, but trusting that it all happens as God sees fits is having faith in what we don’t understand or comprehend.  We don’t know the ‘way’ of things, but the ‘way knows the way’.